Love & Sex (2000) was a movie I caught late night while living in my mom’s basement wondering where my life was going. Some may not get it, but this is The One movie for me. It’s the movie I watch when I need grounding. When things just aren’t going the way I want them to. It brings me back. It makes me think. Now, others may watch it and think I’m completely off, but it made sense of things for a moment and that’s all I needed. And for my friends, this may make more sense of things you hear me refer to or say.
“Kate: Love is a minefield, you take a step and get blown to pieces, put yourself back together again and stupidly take another step. I guess thats human nature, it hurts so much to be alone that we’d all rather blow-up than be single. “
I feel this way a lot. But I don’t think being single scares me anymore. It used to. I loved so hard in my first real relationship that everything afterwards was like this. The last thing I wanted in the world was to feel alone. Or so I thought. I just couldn’t get over the biggest love I had ever had. Not even my first marriage came close. Things are different now. My husband has been my second chance at the “I’ll give the world” kind of love. It was those pesky, destructive 8 years in between that was my minefield.
“Adam Levy: Don’t poke the bear in the zoo. “
“Adam Levy: Who’s a grumpy bunny? “
“Adam Levy: I cheese sandwich you.
Kate: I cheese sandwich you too. “
Well, I just love these. I use them all the time! They are like my inside joke with myself sometimes. Or at least that’s what it feels like when I get the eyebrow raise or the squinty eye.
“Kate: Love is ecstasy and agony. Freedom and imprisonment. Belonging and loneliness. It is what keeps us together when life tears us apart. So, when you find that perfect man hold on tight and call me, so I can run over there and see what he looks like and laugh… Because he does not exist you sad perky little optimistic suckers. “
I still wholeheartedly agree with the beginning of this. Love is what you make it. Every relationship goes through its ups and downs. It natural. It’s how we as humans grow. We are faced with something and we react & adjust. Sometimes we react & adjust closer to one another and sometimes we just become toxic to each other.
“Kate: I like being depressed. It makes me feel deep and introspective.”
YES! It does…dang it. I don’t like to live there but it makes me think. It makes me re-evaluate what’s in my life that is making me feel this way. A little dose of depression is what motivates me to find what makes me happy so I can change.
“Kate: We were instant best friends. Two people who understood each other without having to say a word.”
I have a few people in my life that will smack my arm over a look I give. They know what the look means without a word. It’s like they’re in my head. Doesn’t matter what I do or say…they just get it. I’m lucky like that!
“Adam Levy: Two people can be perfect for each other but if the timing’s wrong it’s never going to work out. Bad timing is the reason that most normal people end up single. Weirdos and creeps are single cause they are weird and creepy but people like us are single because of bad timing. ”
Here’s the last one for you… Now I could go on and on forever. I could quote the whole script but this one was the best as I was heading through to find my husband. I love the quotes that tug the heart string a little and make you smile. Single can be the worst title to some. I like to think that single was my me time. I was perfecting myself because it just wasn’t the right time yet.